You know the type, the one-hit wonder – the bitch-slapper – the one you send packing, who moans they were the perfect specimen of gentleness and goodliness – self-denial personified! The ‘charmingdude’ who has a little too much to drink and proceeds to brag about their violence towards women, seriously shocking their group of open-mouthed listeners! The very deluded person, who normally parades around like a gentleman, suddenly exhibits his true colours.
The one who hides behind a facade of ‘romantic troubadour come perfect house-husband’ – but in reality they are the personified drunken loser, with a diametrically opposed side to them behind closed doors/in the domestic zone.Types such as this are streaming through our community right about now!. They talk the talk, but they are seriously unable to walk it… They are notorious for conning others with their BS, disguising their bad attitude towards women.They generally lack coping skills and roll in anger management issues. Sadly, they repeat the same dysfunctional scenario with one woman, and another woman, followed by another woman – serial abusers. Heed the red alert, girls!
We all have one of these sad dudes hanging around (Fool reversed/King of Cups reversed) – you know what i mean – the jerky, manipulating, interfering, bullying, scorned ex-lover – who can’t let go, steps over the line, has minimum ethics, and does their dirty work behind the scenes – keyboard cowards – too scared to show their small-minded faces. We’ve all experienced this toxic tyrant – the silent stalker – the one who is totally under the illusion that they go unnoticed – trying to suck in every other ex who shows up after our break-ups – too eager to make us the ‘bad guy’ – empathising with venom.You know the type – the one who has a stream of bad relationships behind them, they are never to blame, they wear their professional victim hat to the hilt, pretend to support any needy cast-offs they pull in – lie through their sharp teeth – behaving like total maggots!
Here’s the big twist: we can see them, we know who they are – we are too emotionally intelligent to hook up with their exes and have a subjective slag match about them. Many an ex-of-an-ex has approached me looking for the sympathy vote, but i won’t enter the gutter zone. Although, just to share, I had to laugh-out-loud after connecting with another of my exes last night (like any exes we have had the lovers-to-friendship teething stage), who has the guts to say things to my face, knows there are always two sides to a situation, owns their stuff, and fully has my back! So cool that Ms Karma inevitably catches up with caustic ex-characters, putting the joke on them.